Tuesday, December 28, 2010


 Man, I was gonna say ladies, can't we all just get along, but now i think about it alot these men today start acting like "BITCHES". This would be the only time I would say, MAN UP! I don't like to say that but I understand a man should also have an entitlement to his feelings but I just had to blog on this subject, between everybody in this world. If you let all your resentment out as soon as your feeling a certain way it would be easier for you to be happy because your not holding it all in. I do for sure, I may hurt feelings at times, but I will say how I feel at that particular moment or I'd explode and it be really nasty and it's up to the other person if they wanna forgive my side of the feelings or not, if they don't then it's their loss. I've said what I felt. I'm no longer here to impress the world or certain people in my life, my grandmother does teach me to be the better person at times and forgive and forget. Well, I've gotten better with time in discussing things with her since she seems to be the only real damn person on this planet with common sence.
 My thing is I feel these days alot of people take almost everything important in their life for granted, well sometimes I think most these people need a major loss in their life to rethink whats really important, like family and certain real friends. Gosh, I resented so many in my life in my past, God blessed me recently after some of the big losses I went through with my husband, I feel stronger now then ever and now we're blessed soon with a little girl on the way, people wake the fuck up, your kids are learning bad patterns of jealousy and hatred from "YOU". That's your personal jealousy and issues it really not right to get those thoughts about certain people or family members in the child's head because of you issues. Let the kid be who they are and not you, bad parenting my thought. Get your feelings out upfront, deal your fucking families, be true to the game muthafucker's like you state you are, DEAL WITH IT PERSONALLY NOT IN FRONT OF KIDS. I'm being a preacher here but in a blunt way, it's how I feel, so just saying though and this is for my favrite readers who keep up with my creations and thoughts to share. Don't go visit your family when their half dying and in the hospital or show up to their funerals if you were jealous or have issue for no big deal type of reasons or sometimes people lack their families because their unhappy with their life. Unless they disrespected you and even the men these days, man who gives a fuck what he got or she got, get your own bitch, then you can be just as happy or whatever your petty reason are for hating on people. What goes around does come around believe that maybe your so hating on her or him because where your at in your life, be happy for them, get what you really want in life.
People also these days are so materialistic, I feel like before anyone gets their husband or wife, mom or dad, to buy them a car or house everyone should have to get a bike first before the car and a apartment before they can purchase a house to see the difference of the world and what it's really like to really own up to that materialistic bullshit you like to brag about. Most little girls or boys get things from their parents and they grow up a bitch, well not all, but most. Best believe if my kids disrespect me or my husband or ungrateful for the things we provide for them best believe that shits getting taken back. I can get angry at family and I can also in short time if the person is sincere or me having my grandmothers thoughts in my head to be the better person, I don't need close relatives drama issues or even close frineds but I will state my case too, it's for my freedom of speech except I don't need to do it behind the back first. Man, I still so young and healthy I have time and plan on going back to college to show my daughter whats the right thing to do here on that note. I lived on all sides of the fence, homeless for few months in the streets at one point, I lived good with my grandmother, mom, and four aunts til I was seven, I lived in a house with my dad for short many years, and 18 I hit the road on my own, paying rent at aunts house and so forth. Recently. I packed up my bags with the hubby after a year of both being jobless and hitting down South Florida from the cold Philadelphia City, not knowing where we were going to land when we got there but knowing what we all been through in our lives and belief in eachother found a hotel to stay and shelter til we're ready to pack and move again into our 2 bedroom apartment moving on up again, but this time with our babygirl. There is so much more to learn and grow in life I never stayed where I was unhappy I stick and move and most people complain about what they do have in their lives, but do nothing about it and are miserable them people really got no clue on real earning and working in life getting things on their own, it's taking me forever to complete certain things like collge and so forth because yes I could have had help but husband or parents bu I wanna try to get it and earn it myself, I've indeed traveled far, learned from some mistakes, got wiser then I ever was, so ladies and gentlemen before you wanna talk shit or not be there for whats really important in life in front of you, first remember, "CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG", the world would be a better off place, even for the kids growing up.

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Friday, December 17, 2010


 You can get served with this, you can get serve with that, you get served with this or you can get served like that, you can get served like shit, you can get served in tact, I aint getting served like this, cause this is not where I'm at. Huh, it's funny when I step into a restaurant these days I try to step into the classy type, but the affordable restaurants depending on my budget. Unless I'm not in a Burger King or Taco Bell and into a more fancy spot to get my grub on I better first recognize the service with a smile or it's gonna kill my momentum in getting into making love to my food. Good food to me, I know I'm a little nutty at times but, good food in a good restaurant is like good sex. Unless there is a postive vibe in the air and a comfort feeling it just makes me eat and wanna get off on the run for the border if some know what I mean. This is the funny part, if there's no satisfaction at the end of the total service well then, this means no tippy tippy for the bitchy bitchy as I would say. Sometimes when me and the hubby go out for dinner he asks how much you think I should tip? You think he or she showed good service? Most of the time I let him decide when he's paying but, when I pay since I enjoy trying new restaurants and eating out alot I like to go by the overall service of the place, even including how the food service timing was and how often whether too much or too little did the waiter or waitress check on us for more service. I think I can say I'm pretty fair but, I often become bitchy bitchy myself when the food not fulfilling to my satisfaction and or service and I may leave a penny for a thought to get my point simply across.
   Lol, I remember about a year ago after I first moved to Florida, me and the hubby decided to try this Asian Buffet and yes the girls did check on refills for the soda but rarely at all I needed at least a few and I rarely had seen the waitress at all for refills or to take away our used plates and we had few on the table empty which most buffets they usually come by often to clear some room on the tables for the next dishes. Well, I was trying to rationalize the whole place that it is just a buffet so I was letting it go though I did wanna say something about it. On secondhand, the food from the Asian buffet was very very cold I almost wanted to leave but I was starving. When finally after awhile of waiting for the check I had told the waitress that the food was really cold and not that great this and all the girl said was yeah and she gave a nasty look and stood there and I was getting the money out. Ha, well I thought she would a t least cut some money from the bill or let the manager know at least but for her not really showing any emotion or letting a manager know it was kind of like a "Oh well" type of attitude. Oh well, then that attitude got that bitch a penny tip. She unfortunately looked pissed so I said sorry no tippy tippy and I will never show my face there again. When there are times in good service and service with a smile and not those fake smiles I do tip well from up to ten bucks and that is considered great for the classy but reasonable places I do show to. Even at nail salons when I go to the asians spots to get my eyebrows waxed they all love when I come in cause I tip five to ten for just that when they usually get only two dollars per tip, so waiters, waitresses, and servers of any type of business, make sure you first give that service with a smile! CAROL-J STYLE! Make sure you comment below and join my page here if you haven't join now it's fast and easy.


  Naughty or nice? Christmas these days, have our times really did change! I never really realized how easy it is staying a child, i miss the shit out of those days, and why is it that we still give a shit about getting nice and some of those expensive gifts from our loved ones and so forth? Don't get me wrong, I still except gifts and enjoy gifts from people because I enjoy the fact that some of these bastards still really give a shit about me, but, what frustrates me is that some of the things that we get these bastards don't seem to be good enough for them. I sometimes hear people complain and bitch that OMG, that cheap mother fucker bought me a mug, or I got some cheap ass slipper socks from my co-worker, well, who died and made you their bitch lol!  Least some cheap mother fucker thought about you and maybe did'nt know exactly what you liked and thought slipper socks could be useful or maybe you just been a naughty girl or boy and that's just what you got.
 Christmas time these days should be mainly for the kids anyway. It is such a major pain in the ass and pressure even though I really enjoy giving for the holidays than receiving and whatever it is you get from me is what you get, I thought about you, at least I didn't bring you coal like old Saint Nick. One person I do really enjoy getting for is my husband, he made getting gifts for this holiday worth it and special because he is the most appreciative person to get for, he enjoys of the thought that counts, he never asks me for nothing so it just makes me wanna spoil him like a fat kid loves cake. My husband will wear anything and I mean almost anything I get for him and I can tell he really likes it, after all it was thanks to a simple taco that brought us together, lol. I do enjoy trying to buy for my family, but now that I'm having a daughter this year of my own with my husband so next year it's gonna be a little difficult to buy for other's next year so maybe it will just be the Christmas cards then since I got my own to manage for and make special which I gotta figure out and save way in advance to make it a good one for her too like I did have when I was a child because I always did get spoiled by my mom and dad on Christmas. It's funny still to this day at 29, I was just recently back home for Thanksgiving for three weeks and close to time I left in December, my mother went all out and I went home with an extra huge luggage of clothes, jewlry, and sneakers added with my baby shower. So yeah I can be a spoiled little brat, but thanks mom and dad I did always appreciate my Christmas's. 
 Now, living in Florida and away from so many people I know can be really difficult around holidays and birthdays but I gotta admit having a family with over 49 cousins total and a trillion aunts, uncles, and cousins who your very close to is a little less hassle and pressure because I always went all out and got so many of them and it's like you try not to exclude anyone but alot of them I had to or I would have needed 20,000 a year just for presents alone, whew I'm whiping the sweat from my forehead already. So maybe I have been a little naughty myself trying to exscape the hassle of spending, spending, and spending on my bastards who cross my mind on Christmas day lol, now off to the Christmas cards with a note that you still crossed my mind.
 Tree decorating with the Christmas tunes and the hot chocolate, coffee, or tea, now that's what I'm talking about. Still enjoy the giving here in Flordia for the few cool few friends and their kids is cool enough now that there's little less people, now this is good for me and having to wrap only few gifts instead of a trillion and my wrapping paper frustrations from going from neat to chaotic wrapping less fortunate. God, our Lord, now thats a Christmas gift in itself I need to get back to this year especially now that I'm having my daughter on the way, at least I gotta get back to going especially on Christmas since I had really had slacked over the years. The point is anyway for this Hot Topic lingering on my mind tonight is that fact that the little things is what should make this holiday special not what kind of ring did he get you or how many things they got YOU, it the special thing that they thought about you for the money they can afford to spend in this difficult economy, the world today compared to old times is that we all need to be a little more understanding in hard times and be greatful for these small things we are blessed with. Sometimes I think most people just get what they deserve, I'm just saying though. What's your thoughts for Christmas these days? Have you been naughty or nice?        CAROL-J HOT TOPIC says "MERRY CHRISTMAS"!